Manyparentshavelearnedthehardwaythatwhatsoundslikeopencommunicationisoftentheverythingthatclosesayoungster’searsandmouth.OnecommonmistakeisTheLecturethelongmonologuethatoftenstartswith“WhenIwasyourage….”Eighteen-year-oldKellycallslectures“longone-sidediscussionsinwhichIdon’tsaymuch.”
Kidsreflexively（条件反射地）shutdowninthefaceofalecture.Theireyesglazeoverandtheydon’tregisteranyincominginformation.Listento13-year-oldSarahdescribeherleastfavoritetimeswithhermomanddad.“Firsttheyscream.Thencomesthe‘We’resodisappointed’speech.Thenthe‘Ineverdidthattomyparents’lecturebegins.Afterthateveniftheyrealizehowridiculous（荒唐的）theysoundtheynevertakeitback.”
Lineslike“Whenyouhavechildrenofyourownyou’llunderstand”havebeenseriouslysaidbyparentssincetimeimmemorial.ButmanyofourexpertparentslikeBobbyaregisterednurseandmotherofthreefeelthatbyfallingbackonclichés（陈词滥调）tojustifyouractionsweweakenourposition.
Sincekidsarecreaturesofthehereandnowthefar-offfuturehasnorelevancetothem.ThereforegoodcommunicatorslikeBobbysuggest“Givespecificreasonsforyouractionsinpresentlanguage:‘I’mnotlettingyougotothepartybecauseIdon’tthinktherewillbeenoughadultsupervisions（监护）.’”
BettywholivesinMissiouriusesanindirectapproach.“IfindthatwarningsareacceptedmorereadilyifIdiscussanewsarticleonasubjectIamconcernedabout.MyhusbandandItalkaboutitwhileourchildrenabsorbtheinformation.ThentheyneverthinkI’mpreaching.”
ThisreallyhelpedwhenBetty’skidsbegandriving.Insteadofconstantlyrepeating“Don’tdrink;don’tspeed”shewouldtalkaboutarticlesinthepaperandexpresssympathyforthevictimsofacarcrash.Bettymadenospecialefforttodrawherkidsintotheconversation.Shedependedonateen-ager’sstrongdesiretoputinhisopinions---especiallyifhethinksheisn’tbeingaskedforthem.
1．Thepurposeofthepassageisto_________.
A．comparetwowaysofparents`communicatingwiththeirkids
B．giveparentsadviceonhowtocommunicatewiththeirkids
C．explainwhykidswon’tlistentotheirparents.
D．intr
